MBACP Accredited Dip Counsellor/Psychotherapist
I am a Qualified Accredited Counsellor/Psychotherapist and a member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling Psychotherapists). I have over 12 years of Counselling experience and am employed as a Counsellor/Psychotherapist and also work privately/independently as a Counsellor/Psychotherapist.
I believe that no matter who you are or where you are from, we all need counselling at some time or another. Whether life is just too difficult to cope with at the moment or whether you have had a dramatic life changing experience that you finding hard to cope with.
Everyone is an individual and what helps one person does not necessarily mean that it will help another.
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As an intensely private person and one who has never felt the need, or realised the help counselling can give, I have to say that when the need arose my first experience has been very, very positive. There is no doubt that this is due to the non-judgmental, positive and friendly way in which Tracey listened to me and guided me out of the darkness that had enveloped me. I have no hesitation in recommending Tracey to anyone looking for advice, guidance and the tools to help them put things in perspective and regain control of their life. Thanks for all your help Tracey.
I was not sure about Counselling or what it involved when I started looking for a Counsellor. I really did not know what I was going to get out of it or what it involved. I chose Tracey because unlike all of the other Counsellors who were advertising she did not say I can do this or I can do that but she just sounded genuine. I am so glad I did. She has supported me to change my life for the better. I once only saw black clouds and negativity but she has helped me through one of the darkest times of my life and helped me to see the positive things in life again. I can actually laugh again which upsets me to think that I had lost that for a while. Thank you Tracey for your support. I will be definitely coming back to you in the future if I feel that I ever need Counselling again.
Tracey put me at ease from the first session that I had with her. I was very
nervous and although I wanted someone outside of friendship and family to talk
to, I was still nervous. We did several different things in my Counselling
sessions as well as talking to make me look deeper into myself, my relationships
and how I could change certain aspects of my life. I have not changed all that
I have wanted to because after exploring them a little deeper, with Tracey’s
support I have found that I have not wanted to change all aspects but I have
accepted them and learnt to move on. I could not of wished for a more friendly,
understanding, empathic Counsellor.
If you are looking for a Counsellor to help you through some tough times then
STOP. You have found her. Thank you Tracey for all your help.
'Thank you!' just does not seem a big enough expression of how we feel for all of the help and support you have given ........ She has gone from someone who couldn't speak through her tears to a young lady who is strong, confident in the person she is, with true focus of who she is and a realisation that she is a good kind person who people want to be friends with. None of this would have happened without you and for this we are forever grateful.
SL & DL
Therapy, who needs it? Well I didn't think that I did. We all get stressed and anxious don't we? I couldn't. I was unable to cope with everyday decisions, everything seemed to be getting on top of me. I was angry, moody and irritable (mostly to those whom I love the most, my wife and my children.) I had to take a good look at myself and with the help and support of Tracey, I was able to work through it. The coping strategies that I was taught I found immensely helpful and will use them in my everyday life. I have found that I can deal with things a lot better after the help that I have had. I am more grateful for the things that I have and the people that I love. The therapy that I have received has enabled me to get back to enjoying work, deal with problems and solve them and move on. I did feel alone and that there was no way out of the black hole that I was in. However. with professional help and help from family and friends you can and will cope. So my message is seek help, surround yourself with people you love and trust and you will come out of the other side.
A year ago I was in a very dark place. I felt that I had no one to turn to. But then I met Tracey. She helped me in so many different ways - even little things that you would not think would make a difference, in what you felt was a massive situation, but made such a great impact. There is times for you to sit and pour your heart out or times to sit and reflect but either way, Tracey is helping you to take a step to a better future. I cannot begin to imagine how many people like me that Tracey has helped, but I do know that if I hadn't met her that my life would be very different than it is today.
When I first came to counselling I was always constantly anxious and fearing the worst about life in general. The major source of these feelings at this time was going onto a ship which before counselling I never thought that I would ever be able to overcome. Through the counselling sessions I have had with Tracey talking through and teaching me how to re direct and change my thoughts through CBT, I have finally been able to achieve what I set out to do and conquer my phobia and get on a ship which has become a really positive personal achievement for me. Going forward it has given me the confidence and realisation that something bad is not always going to happen and if I logically think about the situation a positive outcome can be achieved. I will now whenever needed be able to go onto a ship without hesitation.
At the beginning and prior to making the decision to seek professional help, I felt that I was lost. Not just I focus but who I truly was. There were a number of symptoms that I had become aware of….lack of sleep, lost focus as work and home and feeling anxious a lot of the time. At the first counselling session it started to help me to understand that my head was just full up with ‘stuff’, so much so that I was struggling to process anything new. It was great to understand that the ‘stuff’ was likely to have built up from unresolved issues from childhood through to now. Going through my timeline was hard but I began to see that issues/events that I had buried in the subconscious needed to be voiced and dispersed. With such a dysfunctional family this was hard and upsetting but also though provoking. The hardest point was realizing that the grief of my parents passing was buried and suppressed. During my counselling I was able to release my upset through no send letters and releasing balloons in their memory. This was the most difficult that that I have done in a long time but the feeling of relief and the weight I felt lift from my shoulders was amazing! Since the anniversary of my dad’s passing in November became a celebration rather than negative. In a week’s time it will be a year since my Mum died, I am no longer dreading that day. CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) principals has enabled me to change the way I think, my anxiety has fallen dramatically and my over reactions to situations are now minimal. My new mantra is ‘ It is what it is!’
When I first came to Tracey I was broken and knew that I was at rock bottom. I couldn’t find any way to understand the thoughts I had or how to move on from them and become better again. Tracey asked the question’s that pictured together the problems and why I felt the way I did. After a while I was able to see my triggers to my emotions and then could control them easier.
A few years later and I am the happiest I’ve ever been but I’m also far more aware of how my feelings work and how different people and situations affect me. I will always feel like I can come back as I know that Tracey can understand my problems and think logically when I sometimes can’t. I recommend this to everyone as the process is so thorough and is paced according to how you are doing.
Thank you Tracey.
At the beginning of my therapy, I remember crying a lot in the sessions, my anxiety was really high and depression. I was worried about my future, I didn’t know how I was going to cope. I couldn’t read off the board in class because the letters were all jumbled up and my writing was back to front. Every day seemed to get harder and harder. Every day in my diary I had a problem and felt down most of the time.
Gradually in school when it was a small class I could begin to read the board, not all of the time but when I did I was determined to keep trying and not give up. As I was getting better I found that I didn’t have so much to write in my diary. My attendance was getting better and I wasn’t going to the nurses as much.
At the end of my therapy I can now read, I no longer write back to front and I can read off white paper with no problem at all. My memory has improved and I can remember things well and I have got so much more confident. I enjoy spending time with friends, socialising and going out. I feel much more independent and capable. I’m excited for the future.
In the last year and a half I've seen a massive change in myself. The downtime that the pandemic brought and I was able to have in combination with my sessions with Tracey seemed to come at a perfect time
I remember being so down and in such a dark place for years before I was able to be brave enough to look for help even though I always knew I needed it.
I came in so full of saddness, grief and unhappiness that I couldn't even hold in the hurt I had on the first session, even though Tracey didn't know anything about me.
I looked forward to be able to tell somebody what I had been carrying around with me in my memories for years. It was great to feel heard and I remember telling friends how good it felt to be emotionally valid and not like I had imagined things that hurt me. I was incredibly unsure of who I was, like everything I was doing and being never worked out for me. I hated myself deeply - physically and mentally and would punish myself emotionally. I was not a fun person to be around and an intense colleague, I would go home every day and worry about everything I had said or done even though I had no real reason to doubt myself. I felt isolated and lonely.
Having some time at home during lockdown and then properly going into our sessions allowed a new perspective to start building. After finishing my timeline I felt like I got some weight off my chest that left room for new thought patterns to develop.
When we started preparing for CBT by addressing my everyday worries I started seeing that worries are natural but they don't have to consume all my energy. By having to write everything down I was more inclined to stop worrying before I have to write it down, my brain would start letting things go which was a breath of fresh air for me even though I was spending a lot of time at home in lockdown, which drove me a little extra crazy.
The most memorable thing I learnt was the poison parrot technique which really stuck with me and seemingly helped me break through certain negativity. I use it almost automatically on daily basis now.
I feel happy and healthy now, after COVID things seem to have slotted into place since life works in mysterious ways. I am more fun to be around, cope with life and work pressures a lot better and am not afraid to be myself, I like to embrace and laugh at my more assertive behaviours and have learnt to see them as strengths.
I am glad I've put this time into myself and probably wouldn't be feeling like this otherwise and am grateful every day that I am not constantly burdened by my own negativity. I look forward to what is next for meow and even though sometimes I worry about going back to the dark place I understand that life won't always be perfect or easy but I hope now I am more equipped to deal with it and my own negative thoughts a lot more. I would like to thank Tracey from the bottom of my heart for guiding me through this and offering me the tools and support I needed to become more confident and happy.